Two worlds and in between

Men May Never Truly Understand a Day in the Life of Women. But Shouldnt We Try

goodmenproject:

Yashar Ali believes that having consciousness about the daily struggles of women makes him a better man.

The other day, my friend Dina was talking about her experiences of being catcalled—street harassment is a more accurate term—while walking around the streets of New York. This wasn’t the first time I’ve heard about the epidemic of street harassment. Many of my women friends have remarked about experiencing and dealing with this kind of harassment and how unsafe it makes them feel.

For Dina, one particular instance of harassment on the streets of New York was cemented in her memory. She was walking alone, during the day, on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, when she heard a man taunt her, “Hey baby, you’re lookin’ good…”

“Don’t call me baby,” she responded.

He looked her up and down and said, “…fucking dyke.”

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i've got a fire burning: He Doesn't Deserve Your Validation: Putting The Fake Orgasm Out of Business

fuckyeahfeminists:

Please Click Here To Read More: http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2011/10/03/he-does-not-deserve-your-validation/

It’s great to be a man in our society, the perks seem to be endless. Everything is built with the intention of accommodating our needs. It’s fantastic,…

Another school offers gender-neutral housing

gaywrites:

Grand Valley State University in Michigan has started offering its students gender-neutral housing. The change is the result of a student-led initiative and is now in effect.

Gender-neutral housing won’t be limited to certain buildings on campus; only rooms. Students who have requested gender-neutral housing will be paired together as roommates.

Beechnau also said Housing and Residence Life has started training housing staff on gender and sexuality issues.

“We’ve made some very positive strides in training and partnering with some resources on campus,” he said. “But given this, it will be something we’ll continue to train on.

“The response I’ve received, both internally and externally, has been very positive. And it kind of makes sense. You want all of your students to be able to succeed, and that’s just what we’re about.”

Awesome! 

Meanwhile, the student housing at Oxford was all single rooms - no roommates (although sometimes this meant the rooms were as small as closets), no sex segregation, everybody was mixed together on the same floor, and bathrooms were all unisex (with only one toilet and one shower or bathtub per bathroom; usually there was one bathroom for every five rooms, although in the more posh student lodgings, where each private study/bedroom came with its own sink and toilet and possibly even a shower, the public bathrooms were less plentiful - more like one per floor).

And nobody seemed to care.

I rather preferred this to the American approach of sex segregation and shared large rooms in large single-sex or mixed-sex-but-segregated-by-floor-or-wing dorms.

power, privilege, and everyday life.: I had to apply for a parking pass as a dual city resident, and the...

microaggressions:

I had to apply for a parking pass as a dual city resident, and the older male clerk told me I didn’t qualify. When pressed the issue and explained that I had spoken to someone about the pass and presented my documentation, I received the pass. The clerk acted like he was doing me a huge favor and…

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Fuck yeah, feminists!: Reader Submission: Gender Roles and the Media

fuckyeahfeminists:

Society defines gender roles by images that aid text and help our visually trained minds comprehend the bigger picture. Bathroom signs, for example, sport stick figures for both genders – men wear pants and women wear skirts. The explicitly stated “male” and “female” on bathroom doors, one…

Controversy erupts over Campus Republicans bake sale plans

cognitivedissonance:

Campus Republicans at the University of California Berkeley have cooked up a storm of controversy with their plans for a bake sale.

But it’s not your everyday collegiate fundraiser they’ve got in mind. They’ve developed a sliding scale where the price of the cookie or brownie depends on your gender and the color of your skin.

During the sale, scheduled for Tuesday, baked goods will be sold to white men for $2.00, Asian men for $1.50, Latino men for $1.00, black men for $0.75 and Native American men for $0.25. All women will get $0.25 off those prices.

“The pricing structure is there to bring attention, to cause people to get a little upset,” Campus Republican President Shawn Lewis, who planned the event, told CNN-affiliate KGO. “But it’s really there to cause people to think more critically about what this kind of policy would do in university admissions.”

Really? By the way, you’re not even original. It was done in Florida several months ago, and several times before that. In Florida, they sold parts of cookies based on race. I bet one of Campus Republicans’ main arguments is that because we have a black president, racism is over. It’s totally true, amirite?! I mean, white folks are constantly discriminated against! Here’s Tim Wise’s thoughts:

“I get the joke. How very original. It’s been done for 15 years. The point that I think needs to be made … is that by the time anyone steps on a college campus … there has already been 12- to 13-years of institutionalized affirmative action for white folks, that is to say, racially embedded inequality, which has benefited those of us who are white. And it’s only at the point of college admissions that these folks seem to get concerned with color consciousness.”

So yes, have your bake sale, and play the victim for people being angry. It’s not this country has a pattern of hundreds of years of embedded inequality or anything. It’s a little quite a bit condescending to have a table full of white college kids offer a person of color (or a woman) a cookie at a discounted rate because of their race or gender, and then say, “See, that’s what it’s like when you get into college!” 

Eater of Trees: I understand feminists getting upset with "What about the men?" derails when talking about sexism

eateroftrees:

nines19:

but I wonder how “What about the non-binary people?” is taken.

I’ve actually not ever seen it discussed except in the abortion discussions. (Unless I did and forgot, which is totally possible cause my memory is awful.)

A great many take it as derailing too, afaict.

Also, for that…

From a single-minded, shitty-at-multitasking, could-we-please-stay-on-track-this-aspie-gets-more-easily-derailed-with-advancing-age perspective, I personally wish ALL derails would be addressed in separate posts rather than within a pre-existing thread. WATM, what-about-nonbinary, whatever. 

It’s not just a matter of sexism, it’s a matter of conversational confusion.

I’m the queen of the tangent, and I’m guilty of derailing my OWN discussions as much as other discussions, but I won’t be offended if somebody pipes up, “Could we please go back to what we were talking about?” And neither should any “what about,” IMO.

(via thenameoftheworms)

Fuck yeah, feminists!: A game for little girls promoting botox, boob jobs, and collagen.

myasphyxiatedmind:

fuckyeahfeminists:

Hi, I´m a long time follower of this tumblr and love it. Today I found my niece playing a game that really shocked me. It was a game specifically under the “little girls” section (sexist in itself) and it was a Mona Lisa Makeover saying “Some botox here, some collagen there, she´ll be looking centuries younger in no time”. The little girls have the option to play with a surgical knive to blow up her boobs and shrink her nose, use a needle to inject botox, and to use collagen. At the end of the game the game is sponsered by a surgical company and says “Now the real solution is such and such product by or company.” I am OUTRAGED that this is on a game site for little girls to play with and I think it would be awesome if we could all bombard this page and company with emails telling them how wrong it is so little girls don´t keep getting exposed to it. The game: http://www.minijuegos.com/Mona-Make-Over/944

FFS, GUYS, LET’S GET THIS GONE.